role model.

Self-doubt plagues most of us, at least the sane people. Sometimes because we do not believe we, or what we provide or create, is good enough. Maybe someone will not like you, your writing, your music, how you speak. Maybe your performance does not please the audience it is presented to. Generally, as I have learned, self-doubt stems from insecurities or flaws that developed in our younger years, possibly from peers or parents, school, the environment you were raised in, and this includes media.

       Now, what I say I am not stating as truth or fact, but lessons I have established from experience. One thing I learned is to realize one’s fear or insecurity to better understand self-doubt, then pinpoint where and when it originated. This is better than to say to get over it. Many times the past is full of pains, trauma, embarrassment, but it would benefit one to find what it is that heavily influenced the way one has become when it comes to self-doubt. I understand it is not as easy doing it. I deal with these issues as well.

       I believe most people want to do something different than what they are currently doing. Some may feel they missed opportunities, or that it is too late to do something such as go to college, applying for that dream job, or taking that trip with friends. There are many confident adults who wish they had more confidence or did things sooner, who would give up so much to go back and take more risks, speak up more, and socialize more. Some wish they focused more on school and long-term goals, not allowing the opinions of others affect their lives. There are many children like how I described myself in my bio. More than many realize, more than those children realize. Because of this, they have self-doubt, low ambitions, do not focus on important tasks because it is not cool, only to soon grow up, looking back, thinking of what they could have done, wanting to go back and tell themselves what they should do or do to be the person they dreamed of.

       We may have to put more effort now into getting to where we pictured ourselves five or ten years ago, but the mindset, the personality, the character of that person can develop sooner than you think. Be your ideal man or woman, the hero the younger you would look up to and want to strive to be.

       Now, I am not saying change then go look for some kids to be around, but always express those characteristics of the role model the younger you may have needed. Even peers will see it and may want to change themselves. No matter your age, you can always be an influence, motivate, and inspire, just as you can be motivated and inspired.